I think we lose sight of what genuine affection means. Here is the problem with the term “non-sexual touch.” I wish she would touch me when my clothes are on, instead of just ‘check sex of her to-do list’ when we make love.” “It would be nice if she wouldn’t just go through the motions. “I wish I could touch her other than when we have sex.” And they want it soon.Īnd to be fair to husbands who do value touch beyond sexual touch, I am also aware of the painful rejection that occurs when their wives get unreasonably defensive. To be fair to wives here, I am completely aware that there are husbands whose only motive when they touch their wives - whether it be in the kitchen or in the bedroom - is to clearly send the message that they want sex. “I wish he would touch me without expecting sex.” “Is that all you think about?” (a wife laments as her husband comes up behind her and puts his hands around her waist in a loving embrace) “I wish he desired me with my clothes on as much as when my clothes are off.” Usually it is wives who are longing for more non-sexual touch, meaning they want their husbands to touch them at times without the motive of it eventually leading to sex. The term “non-sexual touch” usually is brought up when a couple has struggled with getting on the same page about sexual intimacy.

Is there any rhyme or reason as to why these things come to me when they do?!) I woke up this morning thinking about that term “non-sexual touch.”

Pronlems with not having sex in